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But to your question of how much you ought to apologize: I think the real question is what do you need to do to get your daughter back. Here’s another thing about parenting: it’s kind of the opposite of Fox News (or, depending on your point of view, exactly like Fox News): not even a little bit fair and balanced.
Here’s how Adam Gopnik put it in a recent New Yorker article: “In order to supply the unique amount of care that children demand, we have to enter into a contract in amnesia where neither side is entirely honest about the costs.
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Sometimes the responding author will share their name, sometimes they choose not to. Please address it as if you are speaking to a person rather than I found myself apologizing to my 27 year old daughter because apparently I raised her wrong.
In order to accept you back into her life, your daughter may need you to keep apologizing forever.
She may need you to not talk to her for six months, or a year, or two.
I’m working on myself, to better my self and fight an ongoing battle with addiction to pain meds on top of all this. Life, I’m sorry, I know I’ve made wrong choices, I just don’t know where to go with this.
Signed, Sorry *** Dear Sorry: The thing about parenting is that everyone messes it up. The other day I talked with a man I know who’s got grown kids.
In other words, the normal rules of human interaction don’t apply.
Kids have irrational expectations of their parents, because parents provide an irrational amount of care for their kids.
Usually they’re willing to do it because the connection is so important—as it sounds like it is for you.
All the “things” I did wrong during her childhood are now affecting her life and shes basically cut me off from her life while she goes to therapy and al anon.
Make no mistake, I freely admit I made mistakes a lot, but all I could say when she called was I’m sorry…and I also told her to get mad and work it out.